Single Life/Dating
Ending Things Takes Cajones..Here’s How to Get Them
It was the relationship that needed to end but yet it persisted. He told me he didn’t really want to be in a relationship but, at the same time, did not want me to be with anyone else. And I kept quoting the famous line from Brokeback Mountain to myself: “I wish I knew how…
Read MoreRoses & Red Flags
James (name has been changed) was tall, light, and handsome. We had known each other for almost a year when he asked me out on a date. I was thoroughly confused because his best friend had just asked me out on a date the week before. “Don’t you guys talk to each other?,” I asked. …
Read MoreWhy Are You Still Single?
This question can go in two completely different ways, can’t it? I used to appreciate it from well-meaning people who just wanted to communicate that they thought I was a catch. And I used to tell myself to give future side eye to people who turned this question into some sort of indictment of my…
Read MoreIf Only
When I was single, I had an almost two-decade long regret hanging over my head. I was in my mid 20’s and waiting tables (at a Creole restaurant.) A mother, father, and son came in to eat. They seemed like such a happy family. Every time I came to the table they were giggling about…
Read MoreWrite On
Dear Single People: I want you to know that one of the greatest joys of my life is to write about the joys and trials of the single life. I love having conversations with other single people about all things single. This hasn’t changed even though I am now have a boyfriend. Many people have asked me why I continue to write.…
Read MoreHope in the Midst of Disappointment
This Valentine’s Day marks the end of yet another Singles Awareness season. How was this one for you? Did you enjoy the season or suffer through it? Or was it a combination of both? I definitely had a combo platter of emotion. I keep picturing my single life as a roller coaster: up with giddiness…
Read MoreWe Look Deeper
I have what I call random memory. I can immediately recall what you ordered at that sushi restaurant two years ago but your guess is as good as mine in remembering what I did last weekend. Because of that, in the first few weeks of getting to know a guy, to prevent me from forgetting…
Read MoreTis the Season
Due to an undue amount of drama in my personal life, I have cherished silence and solitude like a boss! At the same time, I can’t help but be reminded about dreams for my own family. This is the time of year that grabs a hold of my unfulfilled relationship goals and serves me a…
Read MoreAnother One Bites the Dust
As I was reading the text message that would spell the demise of yet another relationship, my brain started playing the song Another One Bites the Dust in my head. I don’t know if that was my way of trying to cheer myself up & make me laugh in the moment or if I instantly…
Read MoreThe New Normal
One of the ideas I have to fight from time to time is that if I’m not coupled up, I am not normal. It’s not necessarily that there’s something wrong with me but something just ain’t right. This idea hits me when I least expect it. I’m just minding my own business and then I realize…
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