Got Therapy?
When I was in grad school, Henry Louis Gates, Jr. came to speak on campus. I wrote about in a previous post. He said something I’ll never forget which is, “If I could pay for every African-American to get therapy, I would because we all need it.” I agree. I love my family. I love…
Read MoreBlack People Love Watermelon
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word watermelon? Delicious fruit? For me, the answer depends on the company I keep. You see, deep down, I don’t like to eat watermelon in front of white people. Sometimes, I do it anyway to address and overcome my discomfort. I know we’re…
Read MoreHow Did You Do It
As loathsome as I found that conversation to be with that nurse , she did bring up a good point: if we (men and women hoping to become parents and looking for encouragement wherever we can find it) are going to be on this journey through infertility together, we should be transparent about our efforts…
Read MoreI’m Going to Go Get Sushi and Cry
“Did she really just say that?!!” We had waited weeks for a phone consultation to start the process of getting help with infertility. As a result of the phone call, plus the detailed questionnaire we had to fill out, we would be given next steps for the process. I was not prepared for our…
Read MoreFertile 40s: Advocate for Yourself
The Promise When I was ten years old, I confessed to my mother that I wanted to be a twin. I wanted a twin brother, to be exact. My mother told me that it was always her dream to have a boy and a girl but that the doctor told her she couldn’t have…
Read MoreRace & the Church Next Steps
Here are the Next Steps as a result of the Expression 58 Town Hall on Juneteenth 2020. Take the Emotionally Healthy assessment Scroll down on the main page until you see ‘How Emotionally Healthy Are You?’ Engage in a Vulnerable, Focused, Loving Conversation Vulnerable—honesty that has overcome the fear of being judged for telling the…
Read MoreSpeak Up
It was the 11th grade and I was running for class president. This would be my first attempt at running for student government. We had to give a speech in front of the entire class stating why people should vote for us. I got to the podium and straight up froze. You can’t really classify…
Read MoreDouble Line Confidence
Have you ever tried to pee on a stick? If you’re a perfectionist, it is one of those things that will keep you second-guessing your precision and hoping that you’re not screwing up the outcome. I engaged in my usual game of pee-on-stick self-doubt recently. But this time around was uniquely important. “When you take…
Read MoreRandom Foods I Love & Recommend
FYI NONE of these products are sponsored. I have just chosen to share foods that I enjoy. So all of these comments are 100% me! I have my husband to thank for this discovery. If you are looking to level up your cracker options, you should try this one. This flourless cracker…
Read MoreCheck Please, Jocelyn
The San Francisco Bay Area has a local show called Check Please, Bay Area. I made an appearance and got the opportunity to talk about one of the best Thai restaurants around: Siam Bay in Oakland. Because of the show, I discovered a Liberian restaurant called Kendejah. If you’re in the Bay, visit these places.…
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